This short ancient proverb from the Hebrew Scriptures captures the importance of parenting.
The proverb is concise, yet gives much wisdom about caring for a child. The proverb indicates that the lessons learned as a child will stay with them their entire life, the parents have influence in the way a child turns out, and parenting must be intentional.
Lessons learned will stay with a child over their entire life. Quite an overwhelming thought. So, if that is the case, how do you teach lessons the most effective way? How are children going to learn these lessons?
The way that all children will learn what they see as normal is what they experience. Children are going to imitate what they see. The way their home life operates is the way they assume all homes operate until they learn otherwise. Even when they see otherwise, it is going to be the natural tendency to behave under the expectations given at home.
Prepare to be imitated.
What is a parent to do? Take action.
If your child is going to imitate you, make sure they see you doing what you want them to be doing. This could be simple; if you want your child to show respect to others then imitate that. Going the extra step, and displaying love for community is intentional parenting. An example of this could be taking your son with you to participate in service activities.
Telling a child what is good is appropriate. Showing them what is good is love.
The Apostle Paul wrote, “follow me as I follow Christ.” Parents should operate with the same thought in mind to set their children “on the way they should go.”